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Four months ago the great Buck Angel released a fantastic PSA encouraging transmen to get an annual pap test in order to check for precancerous cells. I posted about this a while back while discussing some of my favorite PSAs in terms of STD awareness.

Recently Drew Deveaux worked with Buck Angel to create a new PSA encouraging trans women to get prostate exams. If a trans woman takes estrogen therapy, her chances of prostate cancer are reduced, but there is still a risk. Get yourself checked!

Drew wrote a fantastic blog post about her PSA. Drew is one of the few, but strong, queer porn activists. She fucks well on camera and educates a diverse range of people on trans rights. I particularly enjoy her work on developing the term “cisnormativity,” which you can read more about in her blog post.

For more information, click here for a quick fact sheet on health and wellness for trans women by LGBThealth.net.

As much as I’d like this post to be “yay! awareness and sex and love!” It should be noted how much shit Buck Angel, along with many others, puts up with due to his work and who he is. Recently Buck published on his twitter feed a response to his PSA:

“You fucking suck You fake piece of shit. Your twisted amusement damages too fucking much. I can’t get proper medical care because of the perversion you have taxed the doctors with Your lies, for your Halloween costumes. Men don’t have pussies it is incompatible with male chemistry asshole”

I wanted to post the hate that Buck receives to keep everyone aware. Sometimes hate and discrimination are in your face, and other times it’s a little more subtle. Get your pronouns right, people. Respect the pronoun a person uses. And don’t assume you know the pronoun. Furthermore, everyone has a right to proper health care, everyone has a right to live how they see fit. This isn’t Halloween, this isn’t for twisted amusement. This is life.

Keep yourself in check, and get checked.

Iconic Image of the Bearded Lady

In August of 2009 I started a new Masters program in Psychology with an emphasis on Marriage, Family Therapy. To say that transitioning from a Masters program in Sexuality Studies to Psychology has been different is like saying sharks and the fish currently in my living room losing scales is different. Recently I came across a class meeting that really irked me. I mean, really irked me. I was a bit stunned mixed with livid. We were discussing gender in terms of adolescent development and someone raised their hand and brought up a long-winded and meaningless story about a “hermaphrodite” they once knew. I immediately said out loud, “you mean intersex,” but no one paid attention. The professor then went on to explain that “hermaphrodites” are fascinating in terms of gender and society, mind you, not correcting the use of that term. I raised my hand and said, “People who happen to be intersex are often met with discrimination, you’re right.” I was trying to go for the more subtle approach in correcting my professor. This was glossed over. The professor then said, “do you know what occupation a lot of hermaphrodites end up in? do you? The circus. Yeah, that’s right, the circus. I don’t remember the statistics but its something like 50% of them. It’s because thats the only place they aren’t met with discrimination.” The students nodded and wrote this down.

After a bit of grumbling and gasping I explained that this was totally untrue and that she was confusing people who are intersex with the guy who wears a half gown and half tuxedo (who’s just a performer, by the way) and stated that “hermaphrodite” is really the wrong terminology to use. But I felt like I didn’t explain enough. In all honesty, I was too amazed by the absurdity of it all to battle this out right away. This is something I’d like to get better at. Below is the letter I wrote to my professor explaining why what she had said in class was incredibly incorrect and continues the discrimination against people who happen to be intersex. Thanks to this email, the professor spent the first 15-20 minutes of the next class apologizing to the students for what she had said. She then went on to give an explanation as to why she was wrong, and a history on discrimination towards these people. Please enjoy my letter and comment below if you feel like I said anything in error or left something important out.

Keep in mind, I had decided that the best way for me to approach this letter was to acknowledge that she was not trying to be malicious when she said these things in class, but to inform her that what she said was not helping in the slightest.

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Hello Dr. [name removed],

I have truly been enjoying our class and the reading, however I wanted to send you a note after our class on Monday wherein you referred to intersex individuals as “hermaphrodites” and stated that 50% of these individuals end up working in the circus because this was the only place they could find work. As someone who recently finished his Masters degree in Sexuality Studies and works for the rights of others in sexual minorities, I want to say that I appreciate your intention to express the discrimination that intersex individuals are met with. However, I wanted to bring up a few points that I felt needed to be addressed.

While the term “hermaphrodite” was generally accepted in academia and the medical community for quite some time, it is an inaccurate term that is entirely offensive (and I want to make it absolutely clear that in no way did I believe you were trying to be offensive). Hermaphrodite is a mythological term for someone who has both male and female sex organs, which is physically impossible. Intersex refers to the ambiguity not only of genitals but also regarding internal genitalia, sex chromosomes and hormones. Disorders of Sex Development (DSD) is currently the most accepted terminology in the medical community, but “disorder” is never a nice word. We often want to avoid labeling someone as one thing, which then ignores the full embodiment of this persons life and personality. The organization Intersex Society of North America offers a great FAQ section wherein they address the difference between hermaphrodite and intersex.

Also, you claimed that 50% of individuals who are intersex work in the circus, as a form of last resort employment. While I understand where you were coming from in this statement, that individuals who happen to be intersex are discriminated against and persecuted to the point where they are left to profit off of their disorder. However, a majority of individuals who are intersex rarely look different from someone who is not intersex. They may exhibit some androgynous qualities, but the circus statement conjures up images of the bearded woman. Why I bring this up is I am concerned as to how the students took in this information. I am afraid that they will continue to view intersex individuals as just being bearded women, without understanding the intricacies of this disorder. I fear that if they have a client who outs themself as intersex their first reaction will be, “a hermaphrodite?! How’d you get out of the circus?!”

Furthermore, the true tragedy of intersex is not the disorder itself, but how these individuals are treated by medical professionals. Many of these people are treated like a freak show by doctors, surgeons and researchers where they are subjected to invasive, traumatic genital surgeries and photo documentation.

The wonderful thing about academia and science is that it is constantly evolving, and hopefully in a way that benefits individuals, rather than continuing to hurt them. The term “hermaphrodite” changing to intersex, is a great example of this evolution. Not only does it open the doors towards acceptance, reducing the impact of “othering,” it also creates a discussion in the medical community on how best to treat such individuals. Treatment, which should not immediately (if at all) include sex reassignment surgery and hormone therapy before puberty. For this type of treatment is largely based on fitting individuals into a binary of male or female rather than accepting (as many other cultures have) that gender identity can be fluid and ever-changing.

Once again, I want to be very clear that in no way did I think you were intentionally trying to be dismissive of intersex individuals, I rather appreciate your intention to even bring up this topic in the discussion of gender. Bringing up intersex individuals opens a pandoras box of sorts that leads to a never ending debate involving what aspects of gender are socially constructed, how the binary of male and female is not good enough (See Anne Fausto-Sterling’s book “Sexing the Body“), medicalization of bodies (Foucault) and so on.

I truly wanted to use this as an opportunity to create a discussion around gender, sexuality, medicalization of bodies, etc. Below are some resources that you may find interesting:

Intersex Society of North America
Cheryl Chase, creator of ISNA
Accord Alliance

Thank you again for taking the time to read this and making me feel comfortable enough to approach you with this email.

All the best,
David Khalili

Example of a Full Body Image

Last year the Transportation Security Administration (TSA) began discussing the use of full body scanners as a form of heightened security. With this scanner, agents can see everything, and I do mean everything. Just look at this picture! It seems as though this man on the right has a catheter connecting his junk to his gun so that he shoots his leg every time he urinates, damn terrorist. Now due to recent terror alerts, the TSA has begun implementing full body scanners at every major airport. While there has been a somewhat underwhelming cry for privacy rights, most people are simply falling in line and doing “whatever is necessary to protect us against terrorists.”

What is of concern to me is what will happen to a trans person when they step into the body scanner. What will the TSA see? How will they react? With the recent attempted underwear bombing on Christmas, the TSA will most likely be focusing their attention on the peoples junk. With these new scanners, TSA agents will be able to see binding material and genitals, causing concern that the TSA agents may pull the trans person aside for further investigation/searching.

I met with Jackson Bowman, a researcher for UCSF, homeless youth advocate and tran about town, to discuss issues regarding full body scanners, trans rights and privacy. After enjoying our libations at a dimly lit bar and catching up, Jackson said “so you want to know my thoughts on trannies and body scanners?” To begin with, Jackson said he doesn’t understand why cisgendered people aren’t completely upset by this invasion of privacy. Full body scanners are not just something that should concern trans folk, but these should concern all people.

When asked about his current experience going through airport security, Jackson noted that he already sweats bullets when he flies. He recently went to Europe, and due to the trip he got a new passport. Even though he went through the process of changing his birth certificate, ID and passport to match his gender he became worried every time he handed someone his passport. He would think they had a super scanner to find out that something was “off” about his passport, and even though he knew this wasn’t true, he would still get anxious. “It’s fine, everything has been changed,” he’d think, only to be followed with “what if they find out its been changed?!”

Jackson stated that he’s afraid that someone will accuse him of being “inauthentic,” or hiding “the truth,” something he finds himself coming across on occasion when meeting others. In this case his concern is that if the TSA accuses him of being inauthentic or hiding something, then they may search further.

Jackson is not only concerned for the confusion that TSA agents may have when they see genitals that they do not believe to match the person’s gender, but also for a trans man who is packing. Whether it’s a trans man who is wearing a softie or a trans woman who is wearing falsies, it may appear to the TSA agent as if this person is trying to smuggle something on the plane. This would also be an issue for a breast cancer survivor who had a mastectomy and is wearing falsies.

It’s been claimed many times that the images from the full body scanners are not connected to the persons identity, that they are viewed by agents in an office far away and are immediately deleted after first view. However, in early February the famous Bollywood actor Shah Rukh Khan quickly found out that the images from his full body scan were passed around by security agents in the very airport he was in. Two of the female agents even approached him right after the full body scan with the print outs of his naked body in hand, asking for his autograph. If this kind of behavior happens for celebrities, whats stopping the same thing happening to trans folk?

Will there be competency training for TSA agents? My pessimistic side says most likely not. But I would like to see more of a push for such training. Overall, I’d like to see this type of invasion of privacy to put away for good.

For more information:

Transgender Equality Whole Body Image FAQ

Image from: www.plateforme-elsa.org

In another addition to my (hopefully) ongoing series of Clinic Reviews, we are graced by a review by my senior Parisian Clinic Expert, “Frenchy McFrenchfry.” Obviously her name has been changed to protect her identity, but I am incredibly excited to post her review of what seems to be a fantastic and revolutionary, if not at times unethical, sexual health clinic in Paris. Please to be enjoy.

I am a fairly straight female, and I went to a clinic in Paris, France. It’s a clinic run by the Mouvement Français de Planning Familial (French Movement for Family Planning), or MFPF. I waited maybe an hour to get in and see the doctor, but not because they were very busy. A woman came into the waiting room where I was discussing politics with a new waiting-room buddy and welcomed us into a kind of conference room next door. Once the room was sufficiently filled with nervous-looking French girls, two counselors came in and started asking us what we knew about contraception, and then they corrected our misconceptions and answered our questions. To my utter astonishment, I learned stuff. For instance, I had no idea that abortions, if correctly performed, are almost completely harmless to your body, even after your third or fourth. This is a well-kept secret in the US, apparently. In fact, all the workers at the MFPF were fascinated to hear how all this stuff works in the Barbarous States of America.

Then came something utterly shocking to me as an Amuhrikan: one of the counselors asked us to disclose private medical information! And many of the girls complied! Totally illegal back home, if I’m not mistaken, but kind of cool nonetheless because it creates an open environment. What was not as cool was the actual exam. The doctor was very nice, he would come into the conference every now and then to answer rather private questions in front of everyone else and to call in the next girl (they weren’t exactly strict about appointments, they were like “who was here first?” and I was like “me,” and other girls were like “I have class, can I go first?” and I was like “uh, sure…”). But
once I got in to see him, he seemed to be pretending not to understand my (practically fluent) French, which made giving him the necessary information very difficult. He was just going to give me my birth control prescription (which I am admittedly dubious about because he seemed unsure about which French brand to give me) but I had something I wanted him to check out, so he made me undress in a practically open corner of the room, which I found awkward, and then proceeded to poke and prod without letting me know what he was doing or why. Then he handed me my pap smear in an envelope and told me to go mail it with a check for 17 euro.

The whole business cost me 22 euro, plus the 17 euro check for the lab, plus the 88 centimes to mail my own pap smear, plus 22.40 for three months’ worth of birth control pills. Hopefully my school insurance will reimburse me. But not shabby, really, even if the experience was a bit of a culture shock. But here I have to say that the MFPF is pretty amazing, very feminist, very pro contraception, pro giving out correct information instead of scaring girls into being careful, and anti forced marriage (which is actually a huge problem here). Actually, a few weeks ago I unwittingly met one of MFPF’s founders, and he was very nice.

I’d give this experience a 7 out of 10 for sheer novelty. MFPF is fantastic about contraception, but you should really go to a private practice if you want anything else done (or are American).

REMINDER: If you would like to write a review of your local sexual health clinic from your perspective, please email me for more information.

As you may have read, two weeks ago I visited the fine San Francisco City Clinic and chronicled my experience
(read here). My main point with that post was to work against the stigma of going and getting tested. Also to point out that you shouldn’t wait until you see that bump or that goo coming out of your junk to get tested, but to do your best at going for regular testing. Particularly if you are not in a monogamous relationship but that is another post all together.

I might as well post my results in interest of self disclosure…I’m clean bitches! I had no worry, but just like for many other people, getting tested can cause you to have moments of self-doubt.

However, if you find yourself with not so happy results from your recent STD testing and are concerned about openly telling your past partners, you may consider using an e-card service like inSPOT. inSPOT is a website that allows you to send anonymous e-cards to your past sexual partners to let them know that you have an STD and that they might want to get tested as well. While I prefer honesty, this is better than nothing. Thankfully this site also offers a list of places that you can get tested based on where you live.

The image above is my favorite, if not only due to its absurd abrasiveness.

Note: I’ve decided to visit other clinics in San Francisco to review the experience and will post them at a later date. If you are female, FTM, MTF and/or live outside of San Francisco and would like to write a review of your experience at your local clinic please contact me, I’d like to post your experience for others to read. You can contact me at
david@omniphilia.com with “Clinic Review” in the subject line.

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Recently Lisa Diamond, a renowned sexuality researcher, published a study through the American Psychological Association dispelling the myth of bisexuality being a transitional phase for women. Her 10 year study found that bisexual women held a steady attraction towards both genders, as well as remained longer in committed relationships. Furthermore, these wonderful fence sitters appeared to interpret lesbianism as being more flexible in behavior than they did with heterosexuality. While some women in the study changed their sexual identity at times, they generally went back to identifying as bisexual or “unlabeled.”

This is a really exciting study that shows how flexible sexuality and identity is. How it is dynamic and always-evolving, rather than a stagnant label that we apply to our forehead in adolescence with super duper crazy glue for the rest of our lives. While some would have an argument against touting monogamous relationships as something to excel towards, I still like the finding that bisexually identified women are more likely to be in a monogamous relationship for the mere fact that it disproves the myth that bisexual women are unstable, greedy, or just unable to maintain a committed relationship. It would definitely be interesting to see a similar study but regarding polyamorous relationships. My classmate Sunny is currently doing his thesis on poly triads, when he is finished I will surely bug him to let me publish a summary of the results on this here blog.

For all you sex geeks, here’s a link to the pdf of this article: link.

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I practice emergency medicine in a hospital somewhere in the flyover states. One problem we see again and again is an object which, having been inserted in an anus, cannot be removed without assistance. In many cases this is dangerous to the patient. In some cases surgery is necessary. Some patients end up with permanent debilitating injuries which probably put a damper on their sex lives. I’m sure you can imagine what I mean.

Would you please publish a safety advisory? For the sake of your readers safety, warn them not to put anything up their backsides unless they have a pretty good idea of how they’re going to get it back out without my assistance. It would save my colleagues and I a lot of grief and it would save your kinkier readers the odd ileostomy, which is an unpleasant affair. This last is a worst case scenario, but even without complications the means at our disposal are unpleasant for ourselves as well as the patients. Furthermore, by the time they end up in the ER these guys are pretty embarrassed already and I can’t exactly tell the nurses not to laugh at them. We try to maintain professional decorum, but when a guy has more than a couple billiard balls up his ass, it’s a scratch, and forfeits his game of bunghole billiards. Even if we get them out without difficulty, he’s still lost the game to his opponent, who tends to show up about an hour later with some billiard balls in his ass.

It’s a social problem and a medical problem and it could be easily addressed with, I don’t know, a string and some lube and a bit of planning? Thank you for taking the time to consider this matter.

Kind regards,

Dr Andrew REDACTED, MD

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Dr. REDACTED,

Thank you very much for bringing this need to my attention. I have been meaning to inform my readers of the importance of safe ass playing and your description of what happens in an ER is a great way to get a part of the message out.

Readers: you don’t want to risk embarrassment or dramatic urgent surgery at the hands of such juvenile and incompetent physicians, so take up some common sense when exploring your butt hole. What’s worse than the fear of having an object securely stuck up your anus than a group of giggling, fresh out of med school twats who can’t wait to go to their local watering hole (where all the drinks are invariably served in pyrex) to share stories of the latest patient with a barbie head lodged beyond reach.

Now some tips:

(1) Flange it: Unlike what the doctor said, a string is not the best safety device unless there is a hole in the object to tie
it around. However, a prim and proper butt player always uses objects with a flange, meaning there is a wide base at the end in order to ensure the entirety of said object does not get lost in said anus.

(2) Solid it: Never ever ever (say never) use an object that is breakable. Yes, I’m talking about that light bulb in your hand, put it down. I know you like taking risks, but really, risking tiny thin shards of glass lacerating your delicate mucous membrane covered anus is not a risk that would garner you bragging rights like that wicked skateboarding trick you pulled off when you were 13. Always use a solid object.

(3) Sanitize it: Always make sure whatever device or object you’re using is safe and clean. That toothbrush that’s been sitting next to the toilet seat for years and been collecting dust is not the most sterile thing you can use. Many people think that since the butt is not the most sterile part of your body then it’s okay to use non-sterile objects, sorry son not true. Your ass does have bacterium, sure, but it’s your OWN bacteria and it wants to stay that way. Any outside forces will be met with grave hostility. I highly recommend using non-porous objects, as in it is made of silicone or hard plastic. Hell, if anything put a condom of it, why don’t ya?

(4) Lube Lube Lube: Use it, lube is good for you. Your ass does not create it’s own fluids. If you’re using condoms to cover your toy or latex gloves to cover your partners hand, don’t use oil based lube. If you’re using silicone-based toys then DON’T use silicone-based lube. Lube is love.

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Now I know you people like to try to be creative, but this isn’t necessarily an event that Benjamin Franklin crafts store is geared towards. So your best bet is take you and your soon to be filled ass to a well-stocked and well-informed sex shop (Sinsations, Good Vibrations) and buy a toy that follows all three of my above rules. I highly recommend looking for silicone based toys since they are incredibly sterile and easy to clean, Tantus and Vixen Creations are wonderful manufacturers of all silicone-based sex toys.

Happy Butt Browsing!

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My boyfriend was shot in the spine and now he is totally limp… like all over his body. It has been a drag on our sex life, but I can’t help wondering if maybe it’s just me and the severed spinal chord thing is just an excuse. Because he is also in constant waking pain, he is taking a lot of morphine. I was thinking maybe it’s the morphine that’s keeping him limp. If I don’t figure out a way to fix our sex life soon, I think i’ll go crazy – so crazy I could shoot him in the spine.
-Double Barrel Blonde

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I received this question shortly after my last post “limp-tastic!”. My gut reaction to this is that this is a joke, someone playing funny. My other reaction was that this person was pissed. Either way, I decided to address this issue, whether or not this specific person is facing this specific issue. I recruited the help of my classmate/wicked pissah friend in the Sexuality Studies Program at San Francisco State University. When I first met Bethany she self-identified as an “uppity queer gimp,” I knew we would get along just fine. She just finished Law School and is seeking to specialize her focus on sexuality as well as disability issues. She’s way more competent in this field than I am, so I am going to ride on her coat tails while she gives fabulous advice.

When I showed this email to Bethany her first reaction was, “I am not sure if it is a joke, she may just be a bitch!” Agreed. Initially, Bethany suggested that such a couple should “focus on mitigating the effects of his disability in order to get reacquainted with sexing each other up.” In other words, grope and rub yourselves against
each other in as many different ways possible to find out new and adventurous ways to get each other worked up. Secondly, the other best course of action is taking a trip to the doctor. Bethany added, “they tend to be able to offer sexual advice to men with SCI, as opposed to women, so he is lucky he has a cock.” This is a great point, since the medical field is largely cock-centered, treatments and knowledge-bases are generally more cock-oriented. Another reason to visit to the doc, says Bethany, is to see if there are chemical means to gain erections, “often something as simple as Viagra works to foster a woodie but in other cases a penis prosthetic might work out, but the latter is rather invasive so try the chemicals first.” Other than that, taking a trip to your local sex shop (or online sex shop like Good Vibrations or VIP Online) and purchasing cock rings may be the trick in order to keep blood in the penis to maintain an erection. After the cock ring is put on, “she might try a method of ‘stuffing the penis’ this method entails sliding the semi-erect or soft phallus into her vagina. She can massage the penis with her PC muscles. This can get her off and perhaps him.”

Another important note is the emotional aspect involved in such cases. I can’t state it better than Bethany, so I won’t:

“…he may just be having issues dealing with his lack of sensate capacity in his phallus. We are all trained in this culture to be orgasm focused and when a man loses his ability to shoot it off, it can be devastating, so she may try talking to him about his feelings with regard to sexuality and express to him that their sex life is not over just because he has lost sensation. Further, they should be encouraged to engage in sexual behavior that is not solely genitalia focused so that he may reclaim his sexual feelings in other parts of his body. He has to restructure his concept of sexuality or he will not be happy with his ability. Communication is, as always, key here. Check out these sources:
Info on Spinal Cord Injury and Sexual Health

They can post on this site to seek further help from trained specialists. This a great article about utilizing tantric methods to retrain the soul/mind/body to enjoy sexual pleasure and not just focus on the almighty cockster Article on tantric methods”

Overall, it’s definitely a plus to approach this from all sides; physical and emotional….and metaphysical? No. As Bethany put it, this couples’ sex life (if this was a joke question, there are still couples out there that face this that actually do exist) is not doomed.

To put it simply, Bethany kicks mad ass, and she’s definitely the gimp pimp that she touts herself as. If Bethany’s intellect has turned you on to no end (as it should), let me know, tell me why you think you’re good enough for her and how you’d treat her like the badass pimp she is, if after review I deem you acceptable, I will pass on the information to her and she may contact you for drinks.

You can learn more about Bethany through the SF State’s newspapers online multi-media article on her fabulous self. Click Here Then select “Click to View Multimedia!”

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A recent medical article in the New England Journal of Medicine purports that out of 100 men and women who have throat or tonsil cancer, 72 percent of them have the cancerous HPV-16 strain. While the article explicitly states that this cancer is incredibly rare and that even if you have oral HPV it doesn’t necessarily mean you automatically get oral cancer, all the headlines and bullitens states “THROAT CANCER CAUSED BY ORAL HPV.”

While I understand the need to inform the public of possible health risks, these fucking scare tactics are TIRED! Are they utilizing these tactics to protect the public or to stop people from being sexual.

“Suck a cock, get cancer!”

“Lick a cunt, say goodbye to your throat!”

I’m sorry, but this is pretty fucking ridiculous. We’re already shown the worse-case scenario pictures of STD’s from the CDC when we’re “taught” about sex in high school. Do we need to consistently pressure this negative view of sexuality upon the public? Obviously, I am aware of the risks involved with sex…duh bitches. But must this be our sole focus in order to keep all of us healthy, sane and safe sexy beings?

By the way, this form of cancer accounts for only 2% of cancer cases between 1997-2001 (source).

Meaning, .00011% of the US population will have this form of throat cancer (source)(feel free to tell me my math is fucked up).

So WATCH OUT!!!

More on HPV.

Today is National Make Out Day. Oh, and Cinco de Mayo. So…well shit, do I need to give you instructions people?

(1) Grab a willing partner (victim)

(2) Be a smooth motherfucker

(3) Slightly place your hand on the small of their back…I said slightly!

(4) Look at them with bedroom eyes. No, not like you’re cross-eyed and about to pass out.

(5) If all systems are go lean in and lightly kiss up their neck. Just so your lips are barely gracing the skin.

(6) Continue until you get right under their ear lobe

(7) Lean back and slowly move in to kiss them.

(8) Fucking kiss them already.

(9) Continue.

(10) Continue.

(11) Ew, not so much tongue.

(12) Lightly place your lips over theirs, but not so they’re touching. Just centimeters away from their delicious lips. Just so they can barely feel your lips and light breath. I said breathe lightly!

(13) Kiss the fuck out of them.

(14) Continue.

(15) Continue.

(16) If you’re doing it right, everything will go forward on its own.

Utilize these pictures as examples.