Posted by David KhaliliFri, 07 Nov 2008 04:47:00 GMT
Image from: www.plateforme-elsa.org
In another addition to my (hopefully) ongoing series of
Clinic Reviews, we are graced
by a review by my senior Parisian Clinic Expert, "Frenchy McFrenchfry." Obviously her name has been changed to protect
her identity, but I am incredibly excited to post her review of what seems to be a fantastic and revolutionary, if
not at times unethical, sexual health clinic in Paris. Please to be enjoy.
I am a fairly straight female, and I went to a clinic in Paris, France. It's a clinic run by the Mouvement Français de Planning Familial
(French Movement for Family Planning), or MFPF. I waited maybe an hour to get in and see the doctor, but not because they were very busy.
A woman came into the waiting room where I was discussing politics with a new waiting-room buddy and welcomed us into a kind of conference
room next door. Once the room was sufficiently filled with nervous-looking French girls, two counselors came in and started asking us what
we knew about contraception, and then they corrected our misconceptions and answered our questions. To my utter astonishment, I learned stuff.
For instance, I had no idea that abortions, if correctly performed, are almost completely harmless to your body, even after your third or
fourth. This is a well-kept secret in the US, apparently. In fact, all the workers at the MFPF were fascinated to hear how all this stuff
works in the Barbarous States of America.
Then came something utterly shocking to me as an Amuhrikan: one of the counselors asked us to disclose private medical information! And many
of the girls complied! Totally illegal back home, if I'm not mistaken, but kind of cool nonetheless because it creates an open environment.
What was not as cool was the actual exam. The doctor was very nice, he would come into the conference every now and then to answer rather
private questions in front of everyone else and to call in the next girl (they weren't exactly strict about appointments, they were like
"who was here first?" and I was like "me," and other girls were like "I have class, can I go first?" and I was like "uh, sure..."). But
once I got in to see him, he seemed to be pretending not to understand my (practically fluent) French, which made giving him the necessary
information very difficult. He was just going to give me my birth control prescription (which I am admittedly dubious about because he
seemed unsure about which French brand to give me) but I had something I wanted him to check out, so he made me undress in a practically
open corner of the room, which I found awkward, and then proceeded to poke and prod without letting me know what he was doing or why.
Then he handed me my pap smear in an envelope and told me to go mail it with a check for 17 euro.
The whole business cost me 22 euro, plus the 17 euro check for the lab, plus the 88 centimes to mail my own pap smear, plus 22.40 for
three months' worth of birth control pills. Hopefully my school insurance will reimburse me. But not shabby, really, even if the experience
was a bit of a culture shock. But here I have to say that the MFPF is pretty amazing, very feminist, very pro contraception, pro giving out
correct information instead of scaring girls into being careful, and anti forced marriage (which is actually a huge problem here). Actually,
a few weeks ago I unwittingly met one of MFPF's founders, and he was very nice.
I'd give this experience a 7 out of 10 for sheer novelty. MFPF is fantastic about contraception, but you should really go to a private practice
if you want anything else done (or are American).
REMINDER: If you would like to write a review of your local sexual health clinic from your perspective, please email me for more information.
Posted by David KhaliliThu, 02 Oct 2008 23:36:44 GMT
(c) cpap.com
As someone who occasionally suffers from sleep apnea -- okay, more than occasionally -- let me start this post with an "awwww fuck."
In a recent issue of American Journal of Respiratory and Critical Care Medicine, a report outlined how sleep apnea and erectile dysfunction
in men can be closely related. By studying mice over a period of five weeks, the researchers discovered that those who had experienced lack of
oxygen during sleep had less frequent erections than those who had a healthy amount of oxygen intake while sleeping. "But David, mice aren't humans."
Shut up, it's close enough to cause concern, don't you think? Now, I know I've been laissez faire in the past about issues of animal torture, retarded
ejaculation and so on. But erectile dysfunction is an epidemic that needs to be taken care of immediately people. No, I'm not biased.
Ok, yes I am.
But in all seriousness, I find this interesting in that overall health can in fact effect sexual health *gasp*. Lord
knows that staying up for days on illicit substances, endless cups of coffee and roaming around town for the latest thrill
adds a certain amount of excitement that can go hand in hand with a sense of sexual glamor. However, there's got to be some happy
medium folks. THERE'S GOT TO BE A BETTER WAY! (end infomercial voice) How about I put it this way, the saying "whiskey dick" is a well-known
term for a reason peoples. Increasing circulation throughout your body, which is helped by enough oxygen in the brain during sleep, will increase
circulation in your deliciously naughty bits, which in turn makes you grasp the sheets/counter top/fence at the edge of the cliff and
thank your self for being healthy enough to have some damn good orgasms.
Speaking of sleep apnea, I have heard that taking up the didgeridoo strengthens the throat muscles in a way that can curb such a sleep disorder.
I don't know folks, but you may start hearing me talk about my recent "didge sesh."
Posted by David KhaliliWed, 02 Jul 2008 18:43:00 GMT
(c) Corbis
A new study recently reports that almost a fifth of women in the UK (17% of the 1600 questioned) rush through sex, or push off sex altogether
in order to watch their favorite television shows. This is why doggy style was invented peoples.
On April 14th, 1963, the lovely Wilson
couple from Grand Rapids, MI were getting hot and heavy between the sheets. All was going splendidly well until Mary realized that Ed Sullivan
would be debuting the Italian Mouse "Topo Gigio"
on his show in just a few minutes. Being a resourceful one, she pushed John off of her, got up on all
fours to turn the television on and without looking at him said, "Hey chief, I didn't tells you to stop, see? Just keep going, why don't ya?"
Obviously those 17% of women in the study don't know a little something called history.
Posted by David KhaliliThu, 19 Jun 2008 05:15:04 GMT
(c) Metro.co.uk
Let us say that you are watching porn and decide to have a go at it solo-style. How long is normal for the masturbatory experience?
Should you just go at it? Or are you supposed to like try to time yourself so you end with the scene? End of the movie? Personally,
I get bored waiting and tend to cue up to parts that I like, but I was once told that was odd so I thought I would ask.
Thanks,
X
Yet another variation of the tried and true question "what's normal?" Well, the average time it takes for a male to ejaculate is about 3-5 minutes,
as Kinsey put it under 2 minutes over 50% of the time is considered "premature." Personally, I prefer
"retarded" ejaculation to premature since it
adds for laughs and longer sexing. Anyhow, I digress. I guess my question is who effing cares? You shouldn't, thats for sure. But you do, and that's
okay. Unless you're jerking your meat chain 25 times a day, with or without porn, then I wouldn't worry about what is normal. Seriously, diddling
yourself through the entirety of a porn flick sounds painful and boring. Timing yourself can be a fun little exercise and also aide you in
prolonging your stamina. You can masturbate up until a few moments before you feel like you're going to cum, then hold off and wait, and then
have at it again. Make sure not to pinch at the tip of your cockula right before ejaculating thinking it'll increase your time before ejaculating.
If you feel the ejaculate coming up your penis and you pinch the top of your cock all you're doing is voluntarily engaging in
retrograde ejaculation,
making the semen go in to your bladder. Yes, ouch.
In the end, do what feels right, time yourself to your favorite part of the erotic flick and have fun. I'd say thats pretty damn normal to me.
Posted by David KhaliliMon, 09 Jun 2008 22:10:52 GMT
(c) istockphoto.com
This is part one in a two part question. First part: Condoms.
Dear Omniphiliac, I was just wondering if you had any pointers for first-time off-the-bat condom usage. To help combat,
or deal with, what a colleague of mine has called "total wiggle bullshit," or TWB. To help the man please the lady (or man) when he's got a big ol'
slab of desensitizing latex on his schlong and increase, for that matter, the chances of orgasm for the man himself.
Ah yes, the horrible effects of TWB can be incredibly troublesome for both partners. You two are riled up, raring to go,
and you're harder than Chinese algebra, but the moment your cockula sees that dooming latex shield it goes limp. Leaving both of you to look at each other,
then look at your dick and say "WTF mate?"
There's at least two main factors that cause TWB; physical and psychological.
Physical being you ain't got no sensation, sucker. Or at least the sensation
that you do have is nothing like the sensation of flesh on flesh (or should I say, mucous membrane on mucous membrane) loving. One way to combat this is
by applying a few drops of your favorite lube inside the condom (penis side) before you put it on. This will allow for additional friction and giving
you a little more sensation. However, stay the fuck away from using oil-based lubes (including olive oil you Italian stallion, you), as oil breaks down latex
and that is no bueno for both parties, my friend. You can also have your partner give you a good fluffing before and during condom application. Have him or
her put it on for you whilst jacking you off, or put it on with their mouth if they're so inclined. There's also no shame in using a cock ring. Just because
you're young and virile doesn't mean you can't be just a little bit harder. If your partner gives you a dirty look and asks you what you're doing with
that circular contraption, tell her or him that it ensures that the condom stays on (wink wink). Hell, get a vibrating cock ring or one with little nubbies on top
to produce a greater chance of turning on your partner as well.
If you're able to stay hard right after putting on the condom but your dick shrivels up half way through sex, try some different positions that may
increase good ol' friction. A little oral also helps, or just take a break and use another condom a few minutes later if you have to.
Psychological means your thoughtsicles are getting in the way of proper sexing. You may be one hard motherfucker but the moment you pull
out that condom you think to yourself "oh jumping jehosaphat, this condom is going to suck, I'm not going to feel a damn thing." Saying this to yourself
--hopefully you're not saying this out loud as this may scare off your sex partner--will most likely increase the chances that this will be a
shitty experience. As I said, having your partner assist in putting on the condom might make this a sexy part of foreplay and you'll be too busy thinking
how hot your partner is to concern yourself with worries of latex-caused doom. This also may be anxiety-related if this was your first time with the partner.
Being that you wanted to show off your sexual prowess but might have begun to feel anxious thinking that you won't impress or please your partner.
You're not going to please everyone all the time, but you sure can try. Try not to work up this image of hot hot sex and just take it all step by step.
Over thinking the matter will just bring you doom and gloom. Although this is faulty logic think of it this way, your cock needs all the blood it can take
to stay hard, right? So don't waste that blood in your brain by over thinking the minute details of your loving.
As far as your last question goes regarding increasing chances of you coming to fruition, who says that you have to cum while thrusting away inside
your partner? While there is of course the appeal, and sometimes pressure to just finish off while fucking, it can also be sexy to orgasm outside
of intercourse. However, your partner should get to choose where you finish off, whether it be on their body, on your hairy hairy stomach or
on that tea towel your 2nd cousin gave you for Christmas a few years ago.
Looks like abstinence-only education advocates are taking another hit after the findings of a large-scale survey on teen sexual activity
were recently released. This large government study stated that there is no longer a decline in teenage sexual activity since 2007 and that
condom use has leveled out since 2003. This comes after a report that 1 in 4 teenage girls has a sexually transmitted disease and that
teen birthrate has increased for the first time in 15 years.
While there are many reasons behind the lack of decline in sexual activity amongst teenagers, such as supposed apathy towards sexually transmitted diseases and changing
attitudes towards sex, there is a definite blame finger pointed at the good folks of abstinence-only education. "We may be witnessing the beginning of
a trend where we're reaping the harvest of medically inaccurate and ineffective sex education, which is abstinence-until-marriage sex education,"
said Michael Resnick, who studies teen sexual behavior at the University of Minnesota. Due to the combination of minimizing the effectiveness
of condoms, coupled with the lack of education on how to use a condom, many students will simply opt out of using the contraceptive. If
they don't like the way the latex barrier feels, and they believe it is highly ineffective then why bother using it? However, with comprehensive
sex education, there is discussion on how effective condoms are, as well as how to incorporate them into your sex life without it becoming too
much of a mood killer.
Posted by David KhaliliTue, 03 Jun 2008 18:25:13 GMT
(C) Associated Press
Earlier this month in New York, a 35-year-old man ingested "The Black Stone," an apparent aphrodisiac that was banned by the FDA.
Why would the FDA ban an aphrodisiac? They're such buzz kills, eh? They're prudish, sex-negative ne'er do wells. Well that
might be the case, however "Black Stone" is made from toad venom which contains chemicals that may disrupt heart rhythms. It's
like the Botox (which contains botulism) for the sexed. The product is also known as Piedra, Love Stone, Jamaican Stone and Chinese Rock.
At least six men have died from ingesting this substance since the early 1990's. For more information,
click here.
While this is not an epidemic, this is another "aphrodisiac" thats marketed and sold in sex shops and head shops that not only
does nothing to raise the sexual spirits for the night, but could be harmful. For example Spanish Fly does nothing for your sexy mood,
but has been known to burn the mouth and throat, cause scarring of the urethra and even death (FDA).
Be very cautious about which aphrodisiacs you purchase, other than chocolate and oysters (unless you're allergic, of course). I'd
recommend avoiding purchasing aphrodisiacs from shady sex shops, head shops and vending machines in bathrooms of truck stops.
Posted by David KhaliliTue, 29 Jan 2008 09:45:00 GMT
(c) Bisexuality Resource Center
Recently Lisa Diamond, a renowned sexuality researcher, published a study through the American Psychological Association dispelling
the myth of bisexuality being a transitional phase for women. Her 10 year study found that bisexual women held a steady attraction
towards both genders, as well as remained longer in committed relationships. Furthermore, these wonderful fence sitters appeared
to interpret lesbianism as being more flexible in behavior than they did with heterosexuality. While some women in the study
changed their sexual identity at times, they generally went back to identifying as bisexual or "unlabeled."
This is a really exciting study that shows how flexible sexuality and identity is. How it is dynamic and always-evolving, rather
than a stagnant label that we apply to our forehead in adolescence with super duper crazy glue for the rest of our lives. While some
would have an argument against touting monogamous relationships as something to excel towards, I still like the finding that
bisexually identified women are more likely to be in a monogamous relationship for the mere fact that it disproves the myth
that bisexual women are unstable, greedy, or just unable to maintain a committed relationship. It would definitely be interesting
to see a similar study but regarding polyamorous relationships. My classmate Sunny is currently doing his thesis on poly triads,
when he is finished I will surely bug him to let me publish a summary of the results on this here blog.
For all you sex geeks, here's a link to the pdf of this article: link.
Posted by David KhaliliSat, 26 Jan 2008 22:26:00 GMT
First off, yea yea, I know, it's been a long time since I've posted. But hey, I'm a working man and I'm busy studying the ways of Sexuality via SF State. I've been focusing on my thesis, hoping to finish it by May.
I have also been writing for Deviant Nation, where recently I interviewed the spectacular Crispin Glover as well as co-wrote an article on Sex Drive with the lovely Aradia, model extraordinaire of Deviant Nation and all-knowing in the field of biological and physiological aspects of sexuality.
So read up my lovelies.
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As I've posted before, the French are pretty adept at making striking, cute, poignant or intense AIDS awareness advertisements.
I wanted to share with you their latest ad entitled "Le Poison." Unfortunately I cannot embed it in this blog. The ad starts with multiple seductive shots of gorgeous bodies writhing and undulating against each other, but as the camera pulls back it reveals something else that comes with sex.
Is this effective? What sort of emotions come up for you as you watch this? Is this sex-positive or sex-nagative? Is it just realistic (sans hourglass)? Is it a clever reference to American soap opera Days of Our Lives?
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I'd like to thank the great Slam Johnson for fixing the woes of the server that were afflicting this blog.
